Kids' Turn

Putting kids in the center of healing, not in the middle of conflict

Family Resources: Parents, Books/Bibliography

Books for Parents

Good Parenting Through Your Divorce by San Francisco author, Mary Ellen Hannibal. Based on the Kids’ Turn Program, this parenting guide serves as a useful tool to help parents before, during or after participation in a Kids’ Turn workshop. An essential, comprehensive guide for parents, Good Parenting Through Your Divorce helps parents and their children adjust to a new family arrangement. Chapters on childhood development, discipline, healthy communication, and moving forward make this a complete treatment of a common but challenging experience.

The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart, Ahrons, Constance R. Dr. Ahrons shows couples how they can move beyond the confusing, even terrifying early stages of breakup and learn to deal with the transition from a nuclear to a ‘binuclear’ family-one that spans two households and continues to meet the needs of children.

Children of Divorce: A Developmental Approach to Residence and Visitation, Baris, Mitchell and Carla Garrity.

Caught in the Middle: Protecting the Children of High Conflict Divorce, Garrity, Carla B. and Baris, Mitchell A. This book explains the nuances of how high-conflict divorce affects childrena and then provides concrete strategies for minimizing the damage.

Back in Control, Gregory Bodenhamer. This book was designed for parents who feel out of control with their kids. It teaches how to take back the control by using parental authority.

Parenting Teenagers, Denkmeyer and McKay. A guidebook for improving parent-teen relationships based on STEP/teen (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens). It is structured like a classroom textbook with summaries and tests at the end of each chapter.

Parents’ Handbook, Don Dinkmeyer Sr. Also based on STEP (Systematic Training for Effective Parenting of Teens), this handbook offers a democratic philosophy about child training. It follows the same format as the book described above.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, Farber and Mazlish. A basic yet effective step-by-step book which teaches parents how to communicate with kids. Cartoons and practice exercises help make this book fun, interactive, and easy to get through.

The Parents’ Book About Divorce, Richard A. Gardner M.D. This book provides extensive coverage of the many problems that parents must attend to when dealing with children’s reactions to separation and divorce. It gives detailed descriptions of how problems may come about, and offers ways to prevent them.

Between Parent and Child, Ginott. Although written in the early 60′s, this practical guide for talking to and dealing with your children is still useful today. It is clearly written, gives specific advice, and offers basic principles for raising children.

Between Parent and Teenager, Ginott. The second Ginott book was written in the late 60′s and is just as valuable as the first. In this book, Ginott offers straightforward advice about conflicts, communication, and understanding between parents and young adults.

Interventions for Children of Divorce Hodges. This book is intended to provide mental health professionals, lawyers and judges with principles for working with children of divorce, but it is also a valuable reference for parents. It touches on a wide range of areas related to divorce, and focuses on the legal aspects that affect families.

The New Creative Divorce, Mel Kantzler and Patricia Kantzler. The author of this book has led divorce seminars and dealt with divorce himself. He talks about coping with the trauma of divorce and the different phases one goes through in the process. He gives life after divorce an optimistic look by framing it as a renewal of life as a single person.

The Lesbian & Gay Parenting Handbook: Creating and raising our families, Martin, April, Ph.D. Drawing on in-depth interviews with families and sxperts and her own personal and professional experience, the author walks the reader through the many issues involved in forming and nurturing a lesbian or gay family.

Moms’ House, Dad’s House, Isolina Ricci Ph.D. In this step-by-step guide, divorced parents learn how to establish two homes for their children. The book takes into account various custody and living arrangements, and is geared specifically towards parents who do not necessarily have equal amounts of time with the children.

What Every Child Would Like His Parents to Know, Lee Salk M.D. Dr. Salk was the director of pediatric psychology at Cornell Medical Center. From his experience working with emotionally disturbed people, he has seen the benefits of taking preventive measures while children are still young. The book is meant to help parents ease their children’s emotional problems.

Loving Your Child is Not Enough., Samalin, Nancy
Viking, 1987. Samalin is a mother and counselor who draws on her own experiences to teach other parents alternatives to yelling, threatening and criticizing their children. She provides numerous examples of caring, effective ways to discipline and communicate with children.

Second Chances: Men, Women and Children A Decade After Divorce, Wallerstein, J., and S. Blakeslee.

Surviving the Breakup, How Children and Parents Cope with Divorce, Wallerstein, J. and J. Kelley.

Sharing Parenthood After Divorce, Ciji Ware. The author gives her perspective as a mother who got divorced and encountered exasperating court procedures. She offers first-hand advice about ways to handle custody-sharing and thenew day-to-day adjustments that must be made in a divided household.

Co-Parenting, Miriam Galper. In this book, Miriam Galper presents co-parenting methods and anecdotes gathered from friends, family, professionals, and her own experience. She asserts her ideas about the benefits of parents sharing their children equally.

Divorce is the Pits, So Stop Digging, J. Muha and M. Vernon. This self-help program is designed to be used by divorcing parents on their own or as part of a group. Videotape and workbook also available from Looking Glass Productions; 116 Defense Highway, Ste. 210; Annapolis, MD, 21401.

A Guide for Single Parents, Kathryn Hallett.
Celestial Arts,1975. Hallett stresses the importance of moving on after the end of a marriage (as a result of divorce or the death of a spouse), and of starting a new life. The author examines the feelings associated with being single and the change that comes with this new identity.

How to Survive Your Adolescent’s Adolescence , Kolodny, Robert C. Nancy J. Kolodny, Thomas Bratter, Cheryl Deep. This handbook teaches parents how to take preventive measures to influence teens in a positive way and reduce the possibility of self-destructive behavior. It covers topics ranging from sex and drugs to eating problems and suicide.

The CoParenting Toolkit - by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.

ISOLINA RICCI, PH.D is an internationally known award-winning educator, mediator, and a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is the author of the classic Mom’s House Dad’s House and Mom’s House, Dad’s House FOR KIDS. She has been working with and for families for more than 30 years. She is the Director of and Custody & CoParenting Solutions.

The CoParenting TOOLKIT

NEW TOOLS EASY TO USE: Strategies, Checklists, Worksheets, Solutions

This candid, sensible, and compassionate guide takes a fresh look at coparenting. It updates and expands some major concepts in the Mom’s House, Dad’s House books but then adds a treasure trove of new perspectives, new topics, and an even broader vision. The practical tools include dozens of quizzes, checklists, guidelines, worksheets, examples, and more.

  • Quizzes for taking stock of your strengths and ways to use them as a coparent
  • New coparenting guidelines for times when things go well and when hard feelings rule
  • Steps, checklists, quizzes, and “words to try” for controlling arguments and setting limits
  • Tips and tools for building a flexible coparenting relationship
  • Using the list of “Things Kids Want Parents to Know” and winning schedules
  • Sound and sensible communications and meeting guides
  • Different ways to use the “Who Does What List”

“Isolina Ricci provides a rich, concise, and highly readable manual for parents …that belongs on the shelves of all professionals who work with divorced parents.” —Constance Ahrons, PhD, author, The Good Divorce and We’re Still Family

“This is an enormous contribution to the cause of effective parenting and the well-being of the children of divorce.” —Jeff Gillenkirk, author, Home, Away